The Separation Shock
YOU ARE EXPERIENCING
The Separation Shock happens all at once. I walk into the noon meeting knowing something is amiss and my worst fears are confirmed when next to my boss I see the new woman from HR. Yes, this is it. My stomach turns. I don’t really register what they are saying. It’s an out-of-body experience. I knew this would happen one day, but can it really be happening now?
Or maybe my latest contract ended today. 4:30pm rolls around and I find myself shaking hands with people I don’t really know despite working with them for months. I slowly head out to the parking lot for the last time. I’m proud of the work I’ve done, though something about this project always felt fleeting and superficial – like I was never quite able to find my flow.
And now what? The dread creeps in as I realize I’ll have to start that terrible cycle all over again: selling myself, the inevitable rejection, the eventual acceptance of the less-than-ideal next gig. And it all happened so fast. Yesterday I was working – a productive member of society – and now? Now, I’m unemployed.
what you may be feeling
MISTAKES YOU MAY BE MAKING
Not taking time to grieve and process
Avoiding telling loved ones and friends
Jumping too quickly into the tactical aspects of the job search