The Reluctant Recognition



I’ve made The Reluctant Recognition that I’m lost and need to change something. Being angry all the time is tiring. Now, I’m confused, frustrated, and increasingly hopeless. Every one of the 50+ applications I’ve sent out seems to get sucked into some black hole. I have written and re-written over a dozen versions of my resume. I’m not sure how much longer I can take this and don’t know where to turn for help.

How am I supposed to know what I’m doing wrong if I never hear back from anyone? I’ve started to search for help online, but I’m just not sure what’s legit—so much of the advice out there seems unfounded or conflicting. And there sure are a lot of “experts” trying to sell me the 10-part webinar that will “change my life.” Maybe there’s some local class or group that could help? Or at least something to get me out of the house?

It feels like I haven’t spoken to another person in a real way in weeks. And, honestly, I don’t really feel like talking about it with my friends and family at this point—it’s too embarrassing to admit that I still don’t have any leads. It feels like I’ve failed somehow. Maybe it really is all my fault? Maybe there’s something wrong with me? Those I’m closest to seem more distant than ever. There has to be someone or something out there that can help me.

What you may be feeling

  • Frustrated

  • Helpless

  • Lonely


  • Believing that there is a silver bullet solution

  • Paying for unnecessary services, classes, and/or degrees

  • Over-emphasizing the same tactical tasks without searching for a new strategy

Chris Rudnicki